This Is Why Successful People Are Obsessed With Great Habits.
And why probably you should too.
“A morning coffee is my favorite way of starting the day, settling the nerves so that they don’t later fray.” — Marcia Carrington
Habits matter. Not a bit. They matter a lot.
Like Marcia Carrington, it may be the habit of drinking a coffee at the front end of the day.
Like Benjamin Franklin, who would ask, “What good shall I do this day?”
Like John C. Maxwell, who has developed the habit of adding value to people every single day.
Habits can make or break you.
Every year something intriguing happens at the beginning of January. When I go to the gym, it’s challenging to get access to the machines because many people work out.
Who has not set a New Year’s resolution or a goal to get in shape? We are excited. We buy the newest dress, post on social media that we’re getting in shape, and see us as Mrs. or Mr. Universe.
And then towards the end of the month, the gyms get empty once again.
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I had a colleague who wanted to run. He bought beautiful shoes and an expensive watch. But he never went running. Not one single time!
Successful people are different. Successful people consistently do what other people occasionally do.
In this article, I’m describing my learnings from reading excellent books, including “Atomic Habits” by James Clear, “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy, and watching the message series “Habits” by Craig Groeschel, and the “Circle of Legends” by Robin Sharma. Like me, you will understand why successful people are obsessed with developing excellent habits.
As a man of faith, I will start with a few examples from the Ancient Wisdom Book that illustrate the importance of great habits. We will then study how to install life-changing habits.
Spiritually thriving people spend regular time with God.
Jesus never said, “I can’t find the time to pray.” Jesus had the habit of withdrawing to quiet places where he would speak to His Father in heaven.
So He Himself often withdrew into the wilderness and prayed. — Luke 5:16
Paul had the habit of going to the synagogue.
“As was his custom, Paul went into the synagogue.” — Acts 17:2
Daniel, the ancient leader, and prophet stood out. Daniel was determined not to defile himself by eating the king’s food and wine. God gave Daniel and his three friends exceptional knowledge and understanding — to the degree that made them stand out. They were ten times better than all the other trainees. Daniel impressed the king so much that he made him the ruler over the whole province of Babylon and chief prefect over all the wise men.
We have similar objectives, but we get different results.
Have you ever heard of a soccer team that said: “We just want to become last?”
Few get the results they want because we lack the right system to get us there.
Why is that?
Because willpower is not enough. An objective does not give us sufficient motivation and energy to keep going.
Paul said, “I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. When I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong.” — Romans 7:15, 19 & 21
We need a system to be successful.
Daniel had a system that led to spiritual success. Daniel had the habit of praying three times a day. And that’s why he was spiritually thriving.
He got down on his knees three times a day and prayed and gave thanks before his God, as he had done previously. — Daniel 6:10
Forget the willpower. What we need is why-power. Let’s build new healthy habits.
This Is How You Install Life-Changing Habits
1. Know It’s WHO Before DO
“Our habits will make us or break us.” — Sean Covey
Who do you want to become? The mistake we are making is looking at what we should do. For instance, not eating candy anymore.
Instead, we should focus on who we want to become.
- A runner
- A successful business person
- A woman or a man of God
- Someone who has financial success
- Someone who is in shape
Don’t focus on what you want to achieve. The best way to change your habits is to focus on who you wish to become.
We become what we repeatably do.
Look at the goals you set at the beginning of the year. Are they do goals or who goals? Define who goals. Ask, “Who do you want to become?”
Why? Identity shapes actions.
Don’t say, “I stop smoking.”
Say, “I’m a non-smoker.”
Or “I’m an ambassador for Christ.”
Say, “I’m a successful manager of my money.”
2. Use the Habit Loop for Your Advantage
“Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.” — Charles Duhigg
The goal is to solve the problems of your life with as little energy and effort as possible. We will move toward what takes the least amount of work.
Install Great Habits
Habits form through the habit loop.
- Something will be a trigger for us. You see something. You walk by the refrigerator. You get bored. You get hungry. You get angry.
- It leads to action. You do the act.
- Then you get a reward.
- You eat a piece of cake, and then you get the sugar rush.
- You sleep in later. You enjoy the extra 10 minutes of sleep.
- You pray with your kids. And you feel happy.
- You eat a second hamburger. And you feel so good.
- You work out, and you feel fresh with a lot of energy.
- You read the Bible, and you feel encouraged.
Then it goes back to the trigger. That’s how we form new habits. There is a trigger: we see something, we feel something, we have an emotion. We go to the same kind of action and get a similar type of reward. And then the process repeats itself.
How do we start a new habit? We want to make it obvious and easy.
Make the Trigger Obvious
Suppose you want to work out in the morning. Prepare the running shoes beside your door. If you’re going to read before going to sleep, put your book on the pillow.
If you want to eat fruits, put the fruits on your dining table.
Make the Action Easy
Instead of trying to read through the whole Bible. Just say, I read one verse every single day.
If you want to work out, say, I just work out for two minutes. If you want to read, start with reading one paragraph a day.
Start small, and then grow it from there. To become successful, you need to build new good habits. And you need to break a bad habit.
Break Bad Habits
How do you do it? Remove the trigger and interrupt the action.
If you want to stop eating candies. Don’t leave them on your table. Put them in the back of your closet. If you want to stop looking at your social media feed all the time, put your phone away. Don’t leave it on your bed. If you don’t want to push on that snooze button anymore, put your alarm clock in the other corner of your room. That way, you have to get up to turn it off.
There Are Five Different Triggers
- Place: you probably don’t overeat at the gym. But maybe with your neighbors.
- Time: you will not watch adult content at church, but maybe in the evening alone when you are lonely.
- Certain moods: you are vulnerable when you are hungry or tired.
- A moment.
- People: you might not drink too much beer with your spouse and children — but with your old school friends Saturday night in your favorite bar.
3. Create a System
“Everything must be made as simple as possible. But not simpler.”— Albert Einstein
The system is simple. It goes like this.
“After I …, I will …”
For example, let’s look at my morning routine.
- After I get up, I will brush my teeth.
- After I brush my teeth, I will put on my running shoes.
- After I work out, I will get a shower
- After I take a shower, I read my Bible.
- After I read my Bible, I eat a bowl of cereals.
It has become automatic for me. Which means it does not take any effort to do it anymore. It has become a habit.
4. Keep Repeating It for 66 Days
“All change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and it’s gorgeous at the end.” — Robin Sharma
The University College in London showed that it takes 66 days to develop a habit. Hence, you need to repeat the habit loop many times before you acquire a new habit.
Robin Sharma illustrated the process. As you install your new habit, you will undergo three stages.
- Destruction phase
- Installation phase
- Integration phase
Disclaimer: acquiring a new habit is not easy! He said, “all change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and it’s gorgeous at the end.”
If it weren’t messy, it wouldn’t be a real change.
After 66 days, you reach the automaticity point. That’s when doing your installed habit will be natural, and thus easy. In other words, you don’t need to think about it anymore.
What change do you need to commit to?
Do you like the direction your habits are taking you? Do they lead you towards success?
Based on who you want to become, or who God has called you to be, what good habit do you need to start?
To help you get your reflection process going, I’ll give you a couple of examples.
- Getting up right away in the morning instead of hitting the snooze button.
- Reading the Bible before going on social media.
- Going for a walk three times a week.
- Learning something new every day for at least 30 minutes.
What bad habit do you need to break? Could it be one of the following?
- Stop drinking coffee with sugar.
- Stop seeing your friends who drink too much beer.
- Stop spending money buying stuff online that you don’t need.
Who do you want to be in 10 years, 20, 40 years from now? Develop the habits that will lead you towards that goal.
Conclusion: Good Habits Make Successful People Successful
Daniel became successful because he developed the right habits. He prayed three times a day. Jesus had the habit of withdrawing to quiet places.
Successful people developed excellent habits. Good habits take you one step at a time towards the person who you want to become.
As Robin Sharma said, “small daily, seemingly insignificant improvements when done consistently over time lead to stunning results.”
Start small and then grow it from there.