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Do you intend to influence your government officials to make this world a better and safer place?
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Have you ever dreamed that the most prestigious and best university has accepted you? It would certainly be the opportunity of a lifetime! Studying alongside the most brilliant and most intelligent students would be amazing, wouldn’t it?
What if I told you that, after your studies, you would have the opportunity to apply for an influential job in a multinational company? If the director chooses you, then you will take on many responsibilities right away, and you will be promoted to the top leadership team. Would you apply?
Do you wonder how you can skyrocket your success and to get this big-time promotion?
If we encounter a man of rare intellect, we should ask him what books he reads.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
In other words, if we meet someone who experiences skyrocket success, we should study that person to pinpoint the key ingredients of success.
Now, let’s discover how a single man from a foreign country reached the highest imaginable position in an ancient empire in the Middle East. The book of Daniel in the Old Testament presents this amazing story.
Four Hebrew youths faced a dramatic change in their home country. Due to a series of unwise decisions implemented by their rulers, the country entered into a progressive deterioration. As a result, the neighboring Babylonian empire decided to invade the capital to be rid of the non-cooperative ruler. It was the custom of the Chaldeans to deport the high society of the country they were invading to Babylon. The goal was clear: disintegrate the Hebrew culture and values and thus make sure the captives would adhere to the Babylonian values as soon as possible.
We write the year 605 BC. Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah were among the many Hebrew youths carried off to Babylon. When they arrived, the king gave an order to his chief eunuch:
Bring some of the people of Israel, both of the royal family and of the nobility, youths without blemish, of good appearance and skillful in all wisdom, endowed with knowledge, understanding learning, and competent to stand in the king’s palace, and to teach them the literature and language of the Chaldeans.
The offer of the Babylonians seems like the real deal. What did the Hebrews think about it? The conditions were definitely not the best. The same opportunity at Jerusalem would have been much better, because the cultures of the two nations were different. More importantly, their gods were incompatible with their beliefs.
Nonetheless, they accepted the offer.
Let’s look at how Daniel’s decisions and actions skyrocketed his success, enabling him to influence the most powerful leaders of his time.
1. Start With the Right Priorities
Daniel made a brave decision.
But Daniel resolved that he would not defile himself with the king’s food, or with the wine that he drank. Therefore he asked the chief of the eunuchs to allow him not to defile himself.
“What? Are you crazy?”, some of the other Hebrews might have told him. “You will put your career at risk. What if you become less healthy, and they do not choose you?” But Daniel made a stand. His relationship with God came before everything else because he became convinced that the only thing to do was to seek first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33, see also 5 Ways to Become a Purposeful Single).
The chief eunuch expressed similar concerns as his fellow Jews might have had. He was even afraid to lose his head.
I fear my lord the king, who assigned your food and your drink; for why should he see that you were in worse condition than the youths who are of your own age? So you would endanger my head with the king.
Daniel did not change his mind and suggested a deal. He offered him a 10-day trial to test whether the new diet would work. “It’s a deal!”, the eunuch agreed.
It’s important to understand that God always honors our choice to put him first. Likewise, in the midst of stressful and very busy times at work, I have chosen to observe the Sabbath, refraining from working for 24 consecutive hours on the weekend. Yes, that is correct! No work, no professional emails, no phone calls, no report writing.
How is this possible in this busy world in which we live? To most of my industry peers, this is unimaginable. And I guarantee that I have been applying this habit of observing the Sabbath for over a decade. It works! Every single time, God has made a way through. How? I do not always know, and I cannot give you an explanation. But trust me, it works. I know that my courage sets me up for skyrocket success.
Ergo, God honored Daniels and his three friends’ decision, by even increasing their skills. At the end of the agreed trial, they had a better appearance and had gained more weight than the others enrolled in the trainee program. Following their courageous decision, God gave them learning and even more skills (Daniel 1:17). In addition, God gifted Daniel the understanding of visions and dreams.
When the king met the four Hebrews at the end of the program, he noticed they were substantially better qualified than all the other trainees.
2. Put Your Identity in God
The Babylonians had a good strategy. Above all, they had a lot of success in integrating the people of the nations they conquered. By training the elite, as they did with the Jews, they assured that influential people would soon change their minds and adopt the Babylonian values.
Now, Daniel and his three Hebrew friends had names associated with their God, Yahweh. Daniel means “God is my judge.” Every time people called him, he heard God is my judge. Not just any of the Babylonian gods, but the living God, the creator of the universe. Hannah means “Yahweh is gracious.” I like the meaning of Mishael, which is a question: “Who is what God is?” He would hear it several times a day. “Is there anybody who is like God?” Did he remember the words of the book of Samuel saying ‘There is none holy like the Lord: for there is none besides you; there is no rock like our God.’ (1 Samuel 2:2)? There is no other god like the God of the Hebrews. Finally, Azariah means in Hebrew: “Yahweh is a helper.”
Did you notice? All four names refer to God. This shows us that the world-changer puts his identity in God. So should you, if you want to skyrocket your success.
Very often, we become like the one with which we relate the most. When we hear and speak the truth, our thinking will change. The four were constantly reminded that God was their foundation.
3. Keep Your Eyes on God
There is an interesting detail in the text. Did you notice the small word “but” in verse 8? In the previous verse, we learn that the chief eunuch gives the four new Babylonian names that invoked the help of the gods Marduk, Bel and Nebo. Daniel received the name of Belteshazzar that means “O Lady, wife of the god Bel, protect the king.” Verse 8 continues the narrative. But! But Daniel resolved…, we are told. Interestingly, the text continues to use his Hebrew name, God is my judge.
The Babylonians tried to turn their eyes away from God by giving the four Hebrews Babylonian names referring to Babylonian gods.
But our help comes from God. Daniel and his friends knew that truth.
It shows us that Daniel chose to remain faithful to God. Furthermore, he did not let his name change influence who he was, because he knew that he was Hebrew. Consequently, he was resolved to keep the law and to ensure that everything within his power would focus on God alone. He and his friends knew that our help comes from God.
Daniel is a great example for all of us living in a world of distraction. Everything around us tries to tell us who we should become. It is so easy to forget our real identity.
When did you remind yourself last that you are a child of God? Are you aware of the amazing love God has for you?
This culture tells us so often that we are not perfect.
When you buy this and that, if you do this and that, or if look like the latest fashion trend, then you are someone.
Does this sound familiar?
We likely will not receive another name, but the plethora of messages we are hearing try to convey a different identity. So, I encourage you to keep your eyes on God and to let Him show you who you are in His eyes.
4. Do What Few People Do to Skyrocket Your Success
If you want what NORMAL people have, do what normal people DO. If you want what FEW people have, do what few people DO.
Without a shadow of a doubt, Daniel did what few people do. Therefore, he obtained what few people have: Daniel experienced skyrocket success
Sooner or later, people will notice the result of your choices. Similarly, Daniel’s decision to follow the Jewish law paid off. But he had to pay the price first. He and his three friends renounced to eat the choice food the king offered the youths enrolled in his training camp.
Already at the end of the 10-day trial, the servant noticed the difference.
At the end of ten days it was seen that they were better in appearance and fatter in flesh than all the youths who ate the king’s food.
Your choices matter. That is to say, your faithfulness will not leave you unnoticed. Eventually, the king noticed Daniel. When he and his three friends were talking with the king at the end of their trainee program, the king realized that they were unique.
And in every matter of wisdom and understanding about which the king inquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and enchanters that were in all his kingdom.
God bestowed upon the four Hebrews unique abilities and knowledge.
Few people are willing to take the difficult path. It is so much easier to follow everybody else on the big street. It takes courage to say “no” to certain things.
Instead, Daniel’s choice to renounce to the king’s diet and to eat vegetables — the road less traveled — led him to where few go. Few people get 10 times better than their peers.
Many years later, when Darius the Mede became king, Daniel stood out again. The new king also noticed Daniel.
Then this Daniel became distinguished above all the other high officials and satraps, because an excellent spirit was in him. And the king planned to set him over the whole kingdom.
Why? Because Daniel continued to do what few people do. It shouldn’t be just a one-time decision. Rather, doing what few people do should becomes a way of life. If you adopt this habit, you will radically separate yourself from the masses.
5. Use Your Time Intentionally
In the article, You Make Or Break Your Life Between 5–7 AM, Benjamin Hardy said: “How you spend your morning determines your success in life. How you spend your morning determines who you will become. How you spend your morning determines whether you become world-class at something, or remain merely average.”
Seemingly small decisions, turn into huge results over time. Most importantly, small incremental changes will compound over time. Thus you end up, where only a few people get to in their lives.
“Within six months,” he writes, “it became apparent that my thinking and teaching abilities were accelerating at rocket speed. I began to stand out as a missionary.” He dedicated the first hours of the day to getting ready, studying and planning.
As a single, you have a unique opportunity. You have more time than you would have if you were getting married. Much more. You have more freedom to make radical decisions, and you can easily decide to get up at 5 am to invest this time into your relationship with God and to improve your skills. When you have kids, it becomes even more difficult to find that much time. I won’t say it will be impossible, but it will never be as easy again as right now in your season of singleness.
Living intentionally will lead you to places you would not have dreamed of previously.
6. Spend Regular Quality Time With God
The book of Daniel provides us with another key ingredient of Daniel’s success. We are told that Daniel built this great habit to get down on his knees three times a day, to pray and to give thanks before his God. Daniel was certainly busy as a government official. Simply put, he had an upper management role in the king’s organization and likely had many responsibilities. Daniel took, however, a substantial amount of time to slow down, to put his work aside for a while to seek God.
We do know that Daniel spent time praising and praying to God daily. The book of Daniel also tells us that God gave him learning and skill in all literature and wisdom (Daniel 1:17). It seems as Daniel made it a habit to read literature. I assume, reading between the lines, he regularly read Jewish scriptures.
Spending time daily, praying and praising God will let your roots grow deep.
Reading God’s word on a daily basis will enable you to become more Christ-like, and thus your actions and convictions will increasingly reflect those of Christ.
I even recommend that you make commitment to read the entire Bible in one year. This endeavor has skyrocketed my understanding of the Bible. I am using the Read Scripture app by The Bible Project (www.readscripture.org).
It takes discipline to get up early and to spend time with God in prayer and the reading of his Word.
7. Don’t Wait for Your Soulmate, but Decide to Become an Influencer Right Now
I know being single can be hard. It’s so easy to fall into a complaining mode. It’s so tempting to get busy to forget the emptiness I’m feeling in my heart. I am sure you have experienced similar challenges.
Daniel could have complained, too. He was single and living as a foreigner in a land with opposite values. As a devout Jew, he knew that he only could marry a Hebrew woman. Needless to say that there were not many nearby. Hence, his relational future did not look promising.
Don’t wait for your soulmate. Start living now. Decide to become a world-changer as Daniel did. It’s time to skyrocket your success.
Daniel is an example for all of us. This Hebrew in the king’s service experienced a lot of success. And not only that. Through his radical lifestyle and his courageous decisions, Daniel became a world-class influencer.
When God miraculously saved him from the ferocious lions in the den, King Darius understood that Daniel’s God is the living God. The king was so moved that he made a decree for his entire kingdom.
“In all my royal dominion,” wrote Darius, “people are to tremble and fear before the God of Daniel for he is the living God, enduring forever; his kingdom shall never be destroyed, and his dominion shall be to the end. He delivers and rescues; he works signs and wonders in heaven and on earth, he who has saved Daniel from the power of the lions.” (Daniel 6:26-27)
Many years before, during the reign of Nebuchadnezzar, the mighty king of the Babylonians, Daniel made his world a better place as well. God gave Daniel the interpretation of the king’s dream.
This supernatural act, which his enchanters were not able to do, deeply moved the king. We read in the book of Daniel:
Then King Nebuchadnezzar fell upon his face and paid homage to Daniel, and commanded that an offering and incense be offered up to him. The king answered and said to Daniel, “Truly, your God is God of gods and Lord of kings, and a revealer of mysteries, for you have been able to reveal this mystery.”
The mightiest ruler of that time had a God encounter, realizing that the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob was the God of gods and the Lord of kings. Knowing that in those times the kings considered themselves to be God, Nebuchadnezzar’s statement is surprising, to say the least. In other words, the king made a revolutionary statement, as he declared that he was not the ultimate authority. This was unheard of in ancient times. However, it is amazing and makes my heart beat faster. How great would it be if our contemporary rulers had the same revelation?
Daniel made his world better, witnessing the amazing power of his God. Both kings understood that the God of the Hebrew people was alive, and thus an entire nation heard the good news.
Like Daniel, you can decide to change the course of your life, and as a result, impact many other people.
The best time to start is now.
As a single woman or man, you can become an influencer and make your world better. Your attitude, your inner peace, your world-class skills and your dedication will open the doors to positions you would not have access to otherwise.
Skyrocket Your Success
God blessed Daniel abundantly. Daniel’s choices and priorities finally impacted an entire nation.
So this Daniel prospered during the reign of Darius and the reign of Cyrus the Persian.
It all began with an impactful decision. Daniel and his friends refused to eat the king’s diet because they preferred to follow Jewish law. Daniel resolved not to defile himself. Would he have dreamed that his decision was the first step towards skyrocket success?
As a single, it is so easy to blend into the culture, doing what everybody else does. What is normal? To find a girlfriend or a boyfriend as quickly as possible? To live without purpose? Or, to enjoy life wherever it takes you?
If you want what few people have, or in other words, if you want to make an impact with your life, do what few are doing. Do what Daniel was doing. It boils down to this: do what other successful people are doing.
This simple decision will change the course of your life. It will determine whether you become average, as the majority of people are, or whether you will stand out as Daniel did.
Are you ready to do what few people do?
Do you want to make courageous decisions, enabling you to become a world-changer like Daniel?
Are you willing to skyrocket your success?
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