Single is no longer a lack of options — but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.
Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
Is it really possible to be happy while being single?
Have you ever dreamt of living a fulfilled life even though you are single?
SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEWSLETTER
Do you want to become a purposeful single? Would you like to make the most out of your time as a single and to change the world around you? Sign up to the SingleInfluencer newsletter. You will receive regular updates and new articles directly in your inbox.
Have you ever wanted to make a bigger difference?
Is it possible to become a purposeful single?
Over the years, I have asked myself these questions many times. It took me a while to realize that it is absolutely possible to be happy and live a fulfilled life — all while being single.
There Is Even More!
God can even use me in much bigger ways than I thought. I just need to let Him do it. Are you ready to discover how to become a purposeful single?
1. As a Purposeful Single, Make Jesus Your Priority
It’s so tempting to put all your energy into finding “the one.” You may feel lonely. Likewise, you may wish to share your life with someone dear to your heart. Be assured, this desire is very normal. But in this process, you can easily lose sight of what is most important.
Don’t try to fill the void you are feeling, but fix your eyes on Jesus instead. He is with you on this journey. By making Jesus your priority instead of concentrating your energy to find your spouse as soon as possible, you will enter into a much greater dimension of life — a dimension of abundant blessing.
All you who fear God, how blessed you are! how happily you walk on his smooth straight road!
Psalm 128:1 (MSG)
If you make Jesus your priority, guess what will be happening. You will become more like Him. The more time you spend with Him, the more you will even emulate His actions and take up His work. Jesus will show you exactly how true love looks. Make it a priority to get to know Him better by regularly spending time in His presence. Jesus promises you that you will do great things if you abide in Him:
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
Notice the word “much.” When you are connected to Him, you will leave behind your ordinary life — which was constantly in survival mode. As a result, you will live a life that is full. You will bear much fruit.
2. Give Thanks
If you have been single for a while, there is a chance that you have complained. I have had moments when I have experienced a lot of frustration because I had not yet found my wife. In addition, I stopped seeing many of the good things I actually had in my life. And I entered into a complaining mode: “It’s not fair that I am still single! Look, Jesus, I have served all these years faithfully. I have regularly attended Sunday services. And nothing happens! I have sought your kingdom first, but I am still alone!”
It’s not fair!
Does this sound familiar?
Likewise, the apostle Paul had many reasons to complain. He was single and totally committed to move forward with his dream project. He wrote: we are afflicted in every way, perplexed, persecuted and struck down (2 Corinthians 4:8-9). Because of his dream to plant churches, Paul spent many years of his life in prison.
He could have said, ”It is not fair! I am fed up with this hardship. I give everything I have, and the only reward I get is more pain!” Considering his context, his answer is intriguing:
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
All circumstances include those dark times when you feel lonely. Give thanks. Paul adopted a lifestyle in which he would always give thanks to God the Father for everything (Ephesians 5:20).
One night when in prison with his companion Silas, they started to sing hymns. Instead of complaining about how badly the Philippians treated them, they gave thanks to God. Their perspectives changed completely, and miracles happened that very night in prison. The earth shook, the prison gates sprung wide open and finally, the prison guard and his family accepted Jesus. And this was all due to a decision to give thanks.
When You Give Thanks, Your Perspective Will Change
Did Paul’s circumstances change? No. What changed was his perspective. You may say that you are single, but you are not alone. This new perspective gives you hope. Paul was still confident.
We are hard pressed on every side, BUT not crushed; perplexed, BUT not in despair; persecuted, BUT not abandoned; struck down, BUT not destroyed.
2 Corinthians 4:8-9
Paul did not deny his circumstances. What he did was say I am this, BUT I have hope. BUT I do see the Lord at work. BUT I am not alone.
Become a Purposeful Single
Do you want to discover the next 3 ways to become a purposeful single? Read more: 5 Ways to Become a Purposeful Single – Part II. What have you discovered when making Jesus your priority and when you give thanks? We are looking forward to hearing about your experiences! Please share them by leaving a comment here below or by contacting us.